Are you feeling bogged down by other’s expectations? Have you felt misarable by ruthless executions by others in your life boundaries for their own happiness?
Even though you feel you could have stopped it right then & there. Please do not beat yourself. As you are not alone.
First forgive yourself as you were with a different mentality in that time moment or probably you were over considerate towards the other’s behaviours at your own loss
Expectation Forces and Damages
Dissect the incidence/(s) and then you will realize, in that matter, Those people have different Belief – (B)
That defined their Definition of Happiness (H)
Which in turn formed their Expectations (E)
Because of which they created a set of statements stating what is right & what is wrong, carrying statements of Value (V)
This started driving their own Behavior (J)
The obessiveness towards their own judgement that they are right & their judgement about your behaviour caused them Self-Damage (D)
That further aggrevated their emotions and they start throwing their vulnerability with their Attitude (A)
This is being perceived by you who is seeing what is happening without actually realising why it is happening & confused about what they really want or how can they behave like this, caused Reactions (R)
Which caused cascade Damage efects in you & your priorities (D)
These Damages includes but nor limited to Relationship Damage + Material Damage + Non-Material IQ Damage (Emotional + Well Being + Intellect + Financial + Physical + Spiritual)
Rememeber in all above, if this happens again, your first priority is to protect the one who need real support in that matter by taking righteous stand and protect yourself
Then go towards assisting the ‘Others’ to help them understand their role in the cycle of B-H-E-V-J-D-A-R-D and ask for righteous alignment from their side by involving other mature people as witness Or the people who can speak on your behalf Or the people who you can articulate the matter to build compassionate empathy
Then Lead the future matters by acting as a role model
Rememebr it is NEVER TOO LATE to act righteous and those other people who behaving in damaging way know deep inside that they are wrong already anyways
- Shashank.